Losing a child is a devastating experience and life will never be the same again. But you are not alone.
“Eadie is a huge part of our lives and she is always with us. I do still feel a physical hole in my heart that will always be there but I have learnt to accept that I can continue living my life without feeling guilty” – Carina, Eadie’s mum.
We have worked with some parents who have been through the loss of a baby to produce this video. We hope that it will offer some vital reassurance for other parents at this traumatic time.
Who can help?
There are a range of organisations which offer further support and guidance to parents following the loss of a baby. These include:
- Child Bereavement UK run a free Helpline on 0800 02 888 40. They have support groups, offer counselling and they can help siblings through a bereavement.
- Bliss has a range of information on their website, and a booklet on overcoming loss.
- Saying Goodbye offers support, advice and a befriending service. You can also attend Saying Goodbye ceremonies across the country.
- SANDS works throughout the UK to support anyone affected by the death of a baby and strives to improve the care bereaved parents receive. You can call their free helpline on 0808 164 3332 or visit their website to find out about their local support groups and online community.
- The Lullaby Trust also offers support to bereaved families, through their free helpline on 0808 802 6868, online forums and befriender support network.
- The Compassionate Friends is another charity working to support bereaved families, via their helpline 0345 123 2304. Their website contains many useful resources for families coping with the loss of a baby.
“There will always be triggers – other babies, birthdays, Christmas, Fathers/Mothers Days, Easter, first day at school… and ones you won’t know about, whilst shopping, driving, walking, talking, working….. It can creep up on you without you knowing. The loss of a child is indescribable. So many ‘what ifs’ that never get answered” – Antonio, Matteo’s dad
Some of our supporters have bravely shared their experiences of baby loss. You can read them here:
“We’ll continue to spread awareness of CHD for as long as we live and will never forget about Oliver” – Megan, Oliver’s mum.
Louise George writes about life as a bereaved heart family, pregnancy, parenthood, child loss and congenital heart defects on her blog Little Hearts Big Love.
Your Memory Space
If you would like to create an online memory space for your child, you can set up your own special website for free (powered by Much Loved). On your site, you can share memories (photos, music and videos) with your family and friends as well as light candles, celebrate anniversaries, organise events and fundraise in your child’s memory.
“We are so grateful for the time we got to spend with Danyl. We celebrated things we never thought we would be able to” – Danielle, Danyl’s mum.
“Jessica was such a happy, smiley little girl who brought sunshine to all who knew her. We are so thankful for the time that we were able to have with her, although we will always wish we could have had more” – Louise, Jessica’s mum.